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Book Title: After "I Do " A Marriage Map|
The author of the book: P.J. LaRue
ISBN 13: 9780984989492
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Edition: P. J. LaRue, Inc.
Date of issue: July 14th 2014
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After “I Do!” A Marriage Map by P.J. LaRue Common sense advice about relationships, from the heart.
Before I write the review I must confess something. I’m not married and I’m not in a relationship at the moment. I’m not sure if that qualifies me more or disqualifies me completely from writing this review, but I’ve already warned you. If you want to read on, it’s up to you.
Having said all that, I have to confess I loved the book. Like all advice, one can take it or leave it. And Oscar Wilde already told us that the thing to do with good advice is to pass it on. That one should never use it oneself. I don’t agree although understand the sentiment.
P.J. LaRue explains her reasons for writing the book. She is aware of the statistics on the survival of relationships and observes that although her marriage seemed to have many numbers for not working, it has (so far for over thirty years). As people kept asking her and her husband for the recipe, that got her thinking, and as she is a writer, she thought she’d write a book about it.
The author’s advice is common sense, but not for that less valuable. She reflects on what she calls ‘Starter Marriages’ and observes that if there is no true commitment to a relationship from the beginning you might as well not even bother. If you’re going to give up at the first hurdle, don’t get in the race. She also emphasises the importance of communication, true communication, and she highlights the elements she thinks are necessary for such communication to exist: honesty, be open, listen, never trash talk, don’t play games, whisper sweet nothings, choose your words carefully, change requires self-awareness, change takes effort, compromise, tone, body language, golden rule and R-E-S-P-E-C-T. Other than ‘whisper sweet nothings’ I’d say they are very good principles to follow in any communication, but even more important when the communication is with your loved one.
If the advice is sound, as I say, what I found more touching (and it is a touching book) was how the author uses her own relationship as a yardstick and example of both the things to do and the possible pitfalls, the type of problems that relationships experience. She is candid and honest when talking about her personal difficulties and the trials that they have had to go through (and they’re still coming to terms with).
It might be that some of the ideas exposed in the book (yes, I’m talking about her stance on sex in relationships) might sound old-fashioned, and she herself acknowledges that, but just because something is old or has been said before it doesn’t mean it is wrong. You can always decide what parts of the advice you think should apply to you, but if you can be as selfless and insightful as the author is after you read it, I guarantee you will have a much better chance at making your relationship work.
I was given a free copy of the book by the author in exchange for an honest review.
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Read information about the authorPJ wrote poetry in high school, but she discovered writing children’s books and short stories later in life. Her writing inspirations are hiking, photography and environmental consciousness, but she links these interests to much larger social issues. A person very close to PJ was molested as a child, making PJ passionate about providing child safety tips. And, PJ was bullied in the third grade by girls much larger than she, who demanded that PJ give them her lunch or her lunch money. As a result, PJ is committed to spreading the word that bullying must be stopped.
One of PJ’s goals is to help educate children, parents and caregivers, in a fun way, using her children’s book series, The Mystic Princesses. Because PJ loves to travel, the princesses will visit many locales. learning about the environmental concerns along the way.
PJ has been happily married over 30 years although there are many reasons why her marriage should have failed. Some of those factors are that her parents divorced after a long and sometimes abusive relationship, that her father is an alcoholic (now sober for many years), and that she married at a very young age. She broke the domestic abuse cycle by marrying a kind and supportive man. After receiving encouragement from friends, she decided to write After "I Do!" A Marriage Map a short advice book filled with anecdotes from her own marriage. The After "I Do!" tab has more information about PJ's childhood and marriage.
Honors & Awards:
The Mystic Princesses and the Whirlpool:
indieBRAG Medallion January 2015
"Unique...believable...clever" Writers Digest 21st Annual Self-Published Book Awards
The Prairie Princess Winner of November 2013 www.WritersType.com Flash Fiction contest
The Confession of D. B. Cooper Honorable Mention in Writers Digest Crime Competition
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